Saturday, November 14, 2015

CHANGE = FREAK OUT!

May I tell you the one thing that will make the kiddos freak out no matter what? Change. Yes, you read that right, change. Change trumps spiders, falling, and losing all their toys. Change is scary. Change is scary, because these kiddos have never known a life without drastic changes. Changes that include new families, separation from siblings, people leaving, new houses, and leaving everything behind. The simplest change sparks worry that their nightmare is about to begin all over again. Let me give you an example.

Earlier this week the kiddos were asked to dress up for an event at school. This kicked their nerves into overdrive, like woah! The kids first responded with excitement. They screamed and jumped and wiggled all over. Once it was time to get ready, they followed me around like little ducklings all over the house. Later, we got to the school and little man asks, "Will you please stay with me?" I explained again why he was dressed up and what the "special" plans at school were. He then said, "ok, mommy I will try to not worry anymore." I told him he would be safe and there was nothing to worry about at all. I then reminded him that I would be back later to big him up as usual. He smiled.

This is one example of many freak out moments due to change. Slowly, overtime I do believe that change will not be so scary anymore. It is going to take a lot of time though. A lot of time with consistency, love, and trust building. We will get there. Until then, we will keep reassuring our kiddos that we are here to stay and explaining every detail before changes occur when possible.

If you have any tips on how to help our kiddos deal with change. Please comment below!

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2 comments:

  1. Oh I hear you. I talk about this all the time. The most minor - as it may appear to us - of change can throw Pickle into utter despair. I just try to prep him as much as possible but to be honest his reactions are so unpredictable. Sometimes, I expect him not to cope and he does better than I imagine, other times he appears calm on the surface then he turns into the Tasmanian Devil on speed ;) !! At that point-of-no-return, I just validate, validate, validate...and hope I have wine at home! ;)

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    1. I am glad we are not the only ones! :) Thanks for the comment.

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