Monday, October 20, 2014

Answers to Questions We Are Often Asked As Prospective Foster Parents

1.) Are you still going to have your own kids?

The kids that are placed in our home will be OUR kids. In our hearts we feel there is no difference between adopted, fostered, or biological. At this point in our lives, we are taking one day at a time and we are focusing on the gifts God has for us through foster care adoption. We are not sure if we will ever have a biological child.

2.) Can you have kids?

We do not know. Fertility is not a factor in our decision to adopt. We are simply adopting, because we feel God has lead us to do so. For us it is not a second choice or plan B. Fostering is our plan A.

3.) Are you worried that they may have severe problems?

We know that through God all things are possible and He will give us the strength to overcome any obstacle we may face through this process. We entered the process knowing that there is a reason children are removed and those reasons ultimately will affect the children in some way. The children did not choose to enter into the lives they have been given. Circumstances that surround the child and the emotions that follow them in no way should lessen their right to be loved, wanted, or desired.

4.) What if they have to leave?

We know that there is a chance that the child(ren)'s stay may be temporary. We are going to take it one day at a time and treasure each day like it's our last. We feel that whether a child is with us 2 days or 2 years an impact can be made. If a child's situation changes and we have to let them go, our goal is that they go knowing they are loved by us as foster parents and God as their Abba father.

5.) What are you most afraid of?

For me (KellySue) it is the unknown, which is why we are taking this process one day at a time. We could drive ourselves crazy thinking about every detail and every possible outcome so we try our best to focus on the fact that God is in control. We fail at times and have rough days, but we are always reminded of God's plan for us.

6.) When are they coming?

If only we knew. All I can say for sure is in God's time.

7.) Are you able to choose the type of child that will be placed?

We did have the option to choose a certain type of child. Although the wait could be years if we became too specific. We have decided to be open minded to any child(ren). We work closely with our caseworker to determine if each placement referred to us is a good fit or not. We pray and seek God with each referral and allow Him to lead. We have, of course, asked important questions and for the opinion of our caseworker, but we have never said, "No" to any placement.

If you have any further questions, feel free to comment below and we will answer them for you. Please continue to pray for us as we wait for our first placement.

“I am the LORD your God, who teaches you what is best for you, who directs you in the way you should go.”-Isaiah 48:17

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